Hey y’all!!

For my returning readers, I see you! To my new readers, I’m so glad you chose to stop by!

Y’all, 2024 is really about to be over! It’s really December 31^st. Listen, if he did it before, he can do it again. Same God right now, same God back then. Some of us had another 365 days to try, fail, and succeed. What we can say is N**** we made it!

For me, 2024 was a year of reflection and reset. I had to really sit down and determine what was coming with me and what I had to let go. I made a conscious decision to leave 2023 where it was, put people and things where they go, and make space for my own life. Hell, really just make space for me.

For so long, I lived my life being what everyone else needed me to be. I showed up when I didn’t want to, did things I didn’t want to, all for the sake of not disappointing anyone. I filled everyone’s cup and left mine empty. This year, that changed.

This year it was a No Ma’am! I didn’t match energy, but I did match reciprocity! I was no longer overextending myself for people who only did the bare minimum. When I say bare minimum, I mean the absolute bare minimum.

I walked into 2024 open, without expectation. I told God to take the lead and to direct my path. I wanted to understand the lessons in 2023 to unlock opportunities in 2024. As a good father does, he gave me clarity and instruction.

Let good be good! Good things can and will happen. When they do, let them! You don’t have to analyze, investigate, and/or question. You are deserving of all the good things that people want to do for you, or you want to do for yourself. Even the good you didn’t plan for, it’s okay to enjoy it without holding your breath.

Stop bracing yourself, anticipating the bad to come. When good is here, be here with it. As Dr. C told me, “Be where your feet are.”

Rewrite your love story. One of the greatest love stories there is, is yours. You can’t get rid of you, you can’t break up with you, you are always and forever stuck with YOU. In that case, make sure you love you! When you love you properly, you teach people how to love you.

One of the biggest aha moments I had in 2024 was that I can love myself better than anybody else, and if someone wants to love me, they have to do it as good as or better than me.

No. Listen fren, No is a complete sentence. It doesn’t mean that you don’t care, it doesn’t mean that you are a bad person. It simply means, you don’t have the capacity or willingness; and guess what? THAT IS ACCEPTABLE!

I don’t know why we’ve been conditioned to believe that No is a bad word. Yes, I do, but I’ll save that for another post. Khadijah, stay focused.

I’ve learned that saying No will save you from frustration, irritation, and regret, so use it! Expeditiously and unapologetically!

You are stronger than you think. Stop downplaying yourself! If you take a minute to reflect, you will realize that you made it through things that you thought were going to destroy you. YOU ARE STILL STANDING! You may have stumbled, you may have fallen, but you got back up. If you are still walking this Earth, there is still a purpose for your life. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger – and fren, you are just that!

Walk into 2025 with that confidence, that deep knowing, that I can do this!

This too shall pass. Life is like a sour patch kid. It can be hard and smack you upside the head, but it can also be sweet and show you how awesome it can be.

The hurt and pain we so often hold on to, will pass, if we let it go. Everything has an appointed time and when it’s time to shift, it will. When you’re hurting, when you’re questioning what’s next and can’t figure out why you’re in what you’re in, just know, this too shall pass. It’s only temporary.

2024 started out real rocky. I was depressed, grief stricken, dealing with life changes, failing relationships, and just being an adult. Life was showing it’s behind real bad! Then as the year progressed, things started falling into place. Depression is gone; I’ve accepted the changes in my life, and the relationships that I lost, they needed to end.

2024 did not do what I asked. It did not come in, sit down, and touch nothing. It came in here asking questions, testing my patience, and doing what it wanted to do.

2025 I expect God to do marvelous things. I expect favor, grace, mercy, and for God to be God. There is something on the inside that is excited and anticipating greatness. As I reflected on the last couple of years, I am damn proud of myself. I made it through the hardest moments and can confidently say, come what may, I’m gone be alright.

Welp, folks, it’s been a year and yes, I know, I’ve only written 3 blogs. I won’t make promises to write more, but I will promise to write what God gives me to share.

Let’s take 2025 by the horns and ride this ride! This is going to be interesting starting January 20^th. Stay prayed up and know that regardless of what happens, with God you are covered. Take time to reflect and look forward. Write down your goals, make a plan, and execute.

Out with the old, and in with the new!

Healing is a journey; you decide where you want to go.

I love y’all 🤟🏾

~Dee